What's wrong with the English people?

Have they always been like this? Why can't they just relax? I was talking to a friend the other day, and my brother...and they both agreed. In this country you can't look at a child anymore, let alone talk to them! People immediately assume that you are dangerous to them. You can't even pay compliments to women either, without they thinking that you have an agenda, as you can see in this article. Sadly, what's written there is true. And it won't change. It seems that it is getting worse. It is as if this society is paranoid and afraid of everything and everyone...

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Why are many men not interested in relationships/sex anymore?

>>>Read this post first, before reading the rest below, which is my response.

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""Men are becoming less interested in establishing meaningful relationships with other people as an ultimate goal than in inventing identities for themselves."" This is totally right! But the way I see it, there is an angle in it all that you fail to address and is extremely important. Men are pushed by society to be a winner, yet very few of us can be a winner, or the kind of winner society appreciates. Thus, your self esteem pays the price, and you take refuge in other things that are not so uncertain (computers, shared activities with male buddies, cars, whatever...)unstable and demanding as a girl by your side can be. I am not so sure that the problem is porn. The problem is that society is succeeding in making men feel innadequate, not good enough, not needed, etc. Besides, the "models" we are supposed to reach are so high...who can reach them? Who can be a Beckham or a di Caprio and move around that kind of money? It seems that anything below that is just not good enough. And we've all heard the jokes about our girlfriends leaving us for ... Sometimes it feels as if girls will run away with one like that as soon as they have the chance if they meet him.
(And many of them won't even deny it when really pushed to talk. However, nobody can blame them, they're psychologically wired to look for security in a man) Moreover, when you are older (I am 32 success rate ok++ with girls but single and not looking)
and you learn about the law, you also realize that you could lose all what you have work so hard for, if you even co-habit with a woman for a period of time and break up. The law favours them in most cases in the developed countries. In case that you have children, it is even worse, they may not only take most of your net worth with them, but can also legally force you to stay away from your children, or see them very little. So you are broke, lack the affection of the woman that most probably you loved, and can't see your children often. Would you look forward to be with a girl if you were in a man's place today? Porn is quick, easy and clean. The other option is complicated, uncertain, requires time, energy and has absolutely no guarantee of long term success whatsoever. What would you choose? What level of commitment would you offer to a woman? Wouldn't you use porn if your hormones are still pushing hard? And what is most worrying for society...would you look for a woman in the first place?! And, most importantly, even if you want to, how could you get the courage to get into all this when society makes you feel like the biggest loser in the world even when you are trying your best? There is pressure to succeed on women, yes, but there is more in men. It is as if society says "if you can't bear children, and you can't succeed, what the hell are you here for?" And you have no answer. Maybe in that moment you turn your computer on and get it all off your mind in a few minutes... Nobody is to be blamed, but society in general.
It is easy to accuse men of "not being adequate anymore" with a giggle of sarcasm (turning the knife in the wound of young men's insecurities and making the problem worse) without going in depth into the reasons for it. I see men not being understood, supported, cared for, everwhere, all the time.
I see more men spending time with computers, videogames, work...you name it. Is it because we love it so much? No. In many cases, it is because this is the least hostile escape valve we have. It is because there we find a sense of achievement that is denied to us in other fields of our lives.
In order for an articulated, sensitive man to give good sex to a woman, he has to feel valued. Take that out of the equation and the end result of the operation will logically change. It is ok to think and talk about women's need for support, there are even organizations that cater for and defend women's rights in all kinds of areas. But none defend men's. I am not saying that this is good or bad or that men have not had a position of power before. Probably.
I am just saying that what happens is logical, and has little to do with porn or no porn. The problem is men's feeling of inadequacy. If there wasn't porn, men would be hunting, playing football, or doing anything else. Porn is just a side symptom of the problem. It has little to do with its root. Regards

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The adults of tomorrow?!

Accustomed to spend, but not trained on how to make the right financial choices. (some) Studying to do jobs that are fast dissapearing. Destined to compete -in some industries- with workers in the other side of the world that are paid 100 dollars/month.
Unprepared for defeat and with unreal expectations.

American teens believe, based on the career that interests them the most, that when they get older they will be earning an average annual salary of $145,500. Interestingly, boys expect to earn an average $173,000 a year and girls $114,200, according to the findings of Teens & Money, an annual survey released last month by Charles Schwab & Co. and the Boys & Girls Clubs of America.

I am not saying that all young people will end up like this. I am just saying that in the the coming 20 years we are going to see this generation becoming independent adults and they'll have to fend by themselves. In a world where there seems to be no room for real finacial success but for a few, in a society that feels "they deserve to have it", how will it all work out? What will be the impact on society of this young generation realizing that the dream sold to them by their parents ("you're special"), the media and school was just a lie? How till they feel when they learn that they will never be the next Britney Spears? Will a generation raised in the believe that the others don't matter be able to learn to work in teams with them? To do exactly what anyway?

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It Takes Two Parents To Raise a Successful, Functioning Child

From one of those articles worth reading:

The marginalization of a Father’s role in the modern family is not strictly limited to the choice of whether or not to conceive in the first place, either. Women are considered absolutes when it comes to parenting and they demand a final say in every aspect of the child’s life. They decide the names of the children, the clothes the children wear, the religion of the children, the school the children attend, the dietary needs of the children, and the disciplinary techniques one must utilize when dealing with the children. God forbid a man expresses disagreement with any of her choices or she’s liable to hysterically screech, “What do you know about it anyway? You don’t know what it’s like to have a baby growing inside of your body for nine months!”

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